Rev. Amari Magdalena
Most
of you reading this are innate helpers.
You care deeply about others, are empathetic, and a natural
helper/healer. What a gift you
have! How wonderful that you can offer
yourself in service to others in your unique way. So your asking yourself when is the ‘but’ coming
or why is there a problem with this. My answer is timing and request.
This is a tough one for many of us, me included. I was so often problem solving in my kids
lives that I’ve often been informed by them that they are adults. I’ve had
to learn to listen better when they share, not respond with my similar story,
and only then, ask if they would like to hear a suggestion. Of course, preparing
for the answer that they may not want my suggestion.
I’ve observed the help issue in many situations lately with some
of my metaphysical friends. As I reacted
to unsolicited help, expertise, or unwanted divination with some degree of
irritation, I thought it time to talk about it.
Why would I react away from help?
Because, I only needed an ear, not a solution.
I believe that what will ultimately heal humanity is when social/emotional
environments are created in which people feel fully independent, empowered, and
capable of handling their lives. In other words, that evolved human can say to
themselves as issues arise, “You got this
babe!” The reasoning behind my
belief is that when we are too dependent on others to solve our problems, we
don’t own the results. Thus we always perceive ourselves as less capable, able,
etc.
When we jumped to problem solving for others without giving
them time to reflect, absorb, comes to terms with, etc., we can cause psychic
and emotional harm. Oh, yes, we intended
for good but missed the mark. My question is, did we ask you? No. When you jumped in with your solution,
did we feel listened to? No. When you
consulted your own guides instead of giving us space to consult our own, why
did we shrug you off? It was interference, plain and simple.
Well intentioned you may have been, I totally understand
that. It’s also possible that at some unconscious
level, you were playing a little one-upsmanship. We can often get so full of
ourselves we forget the source of our healing talents-Spirit. When I follow guidance,
all is well. When my ego gets in the
way, no good comes of it.
I’ve been a Reiki Master for 25 years and a Shamanic Healer
for almost 30. If there is anything I’ve
learned along the way, it is to get the hell of the way so Universal Life Force
Energy can use you as a channel. I had the
wondrous experience of positively transmitting energy to heal burns, shoulder
displacement, breast cancer tumors, gallstones, ovarian cancer, chemo aftereffects,
troubled pregnancies, paralysis, tendon tears, hiatal hernias, psychological
issues, anxiety, trauma etc. And, I know
without a doubt, I am the vehicle not
the source.
When people have come to me for healing, the first thing I
ask is: “Are you ready to be healed?”
This is to make them a partner in the process.
I often spend time in a platica
(heart talk) to discuss contributing factors like diet, stress, relationships
etc. before we do the actual hands on work. I’m prone to giving homework to
people so that clients can make claim to their own healing. If this isn’t integrative medicine, I don’t
know what is.
But I digress. It is
a wonderful thing when people reach out to help us when we are faced with an
illness. The feeling of having people
who care is immeasurable. That said, please take time to truly hear the person
and support all the emotions they may be having over a disagreeable diagnosis.
* Give them space to cogitate, ruminate, and masticate the situation. Trust that they have consulted their own inner physician for information. When they ask, oh Yes, show up. If I ask for a little energy or prayer on FB, I am
very grateful that you are willing to
do that and care. And, I will ask! I’m in
hopes you will also ask me.
Be the help that is invited, and you will be providing an
amazing service. Know the right moment and you’ll have loving, devoted friends
forever. They’ll love that you gave
space and then showed up when the team (tribe) was called in. Then, and only
then, will you serve to uplift and carry out your service.
"When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed." Maya Angelou
"It's impossible to hold up the banners of victim and victory at the same time." Lysa TerKeurst
"Be helpful but don't allow others to depend on you too much. Help by teaching them how to help themselves."
*One
exception is when the person is unconscious or unable to respond. In that case,
the family may ask for your healing help.
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